The Sweet Practical Science Of Persuasion

1. Reciprocity
You feel obliged to give back when you received.
Show your kindness to people first. Ask peeps to come to your party, and they will want to invite you out too.

2. Scarcity 
3. Authority
4. Consistency
Ask them to do something along the way they were going, not always a surprise and out of the comfort zone

5. Liking
I realized that it is really simple reasons that some people were I liked by me and some were not!
a. Similar with me
b. Pay me complements 
c. Cooperate with me, easy-going

6. Consensus
I do feel comfortable and prepared to do something knowing that many other people did that before. Like, celebrating and giving out gifts at Xmas! Yes, we all like to Sui Da Liu!

The Light On Your Face Warms My Heart

About How Other People Look at Things

It's long since I ever got books randomly from the library, the thought in my mind is like, ahh I don't have time, so I shall only read for reasons. So yesterday, when I picked two books from shelf in ADM, for the sack of passing time on MRT, I felt like doing something adventurous. And yea, it turns out to be very fun and opens up my mind a little bit!

One is a record of drawings, like a drawing diary. The other is a cute

History Lesson Notes

People all around the world live very similarly, life span is about 30 years old and 5 inches.

Adam Smith, 1776 "The Inquiry...Wealth Of Nations"
WEALTH is the engine that drives the social interaction. (WEALTH is what the society is able to produce above what is required for survival.) Village is the back rock of the production of wealth--->exchange of surpluses between cities and the villages. The pursuit of the surpluses is the beginning of the world pulling apart.Commercialization is the engine of Globalization. 

Technology, especially hydraulic technology changes the relationships: resources are now controlled by the state
China, for instance, was building the canal forever... it connects the rice frontier to the urban areas. A fusion of farming frontier of southern China and the military and political frontier in northern China was forming.  The population growth from 8th 50 million to 12th Century 100 million.

Luxury Goods
Pepper from India, sick from China, clothes from Europe, weapon from south Asia, cinneman from Sri Lanka. Small and light, ship-able to other part of the world

The Process of Deforestation
It is an on-going story. The growth of wealth leads to the deforestation. It begins with the destruction of the elephant habitats in southern China. The landscape is filled with human hubs, for rice production. The growth of wealth changes the math of the politics. The negotiations of agrarian people, merchants and the tax collectors. The interconnection and the interdependence of the parts around China.

The Silk Road：Afro-Eurasian trade 1000-1300 CE
Dun Huang documented what life was life on silk road. Spread of Buddhism made the commercial activities easier across the ethnics, and aided by the commercial transactions. Camels are tied through nose tips, elephants and horses; Footwear and water.

Technology: sea lanes.
ships, larger ships, caravel, campus invented in China,
coastal trade,

What I Will Be Proud Of at My Funeral

Had a get-together with Mia and Manfred yesterday, after life, 2 years and a half?

They do not seem to remember what I remembered. It was discouraging, or you can say I was sad. But it made me happy too, because I started to realize that I DO REMEMBER. Those are not gone in me.

The past is all mine, my life is so rich with it. No one really forgets and nothing is forgotten. I live my life with it so I live in the moment, truly. As if there's nothing bothering me, that the world is not in such a hurry to live on and on, that I have confidence for myself, to live it out so that when I left for another world, peeps will remember me in my funeral, as a happy woman who did what she wanted to. And if the memory accumulates, and I so wanted to share it, recall it with these friends as I did, I wouldn't be regretting my life, what wrong did I do or stuff like that. I know it's all a process, that I loved my life.

People move on, or they are in a different mood to remember together with you. You know, you experienced it together and be happy and be sad at the moment, but you can't share the memory, at the same moment, two and a half years later.

Words of The Month

If we treat people as they are, we make them worse. If we treat people as they ought to be, we help them become what they are capable of becoming.

Here Comes the Wonderful Man

I found a wonderful man, the "greatest human being" as far as I can see.

Haha. Sounds creepy. But he is very nice and gentle, heart of a child, mind of a man. 

I would want all human to be like him (strange thought I know), and I can see the world becomes more wonderful.

Being with such a man is a bless, you feel you are a better man too. It's the love and good will that flows in the air that makes you warm. You have to look into his eyes, they are so clear.

I really didn't expect a creature like this in my life ever. I don't want to exaggerate but to let the wonderful thing grow. 

Last but not least, he has a wife who is beautiful and smart too. Please deliver my best wishes to both of them.
:)

Yours Faithful, 

Jane

Speak Your Mind, Jane!

So here is what occupied my mind the whole day:

I need to improve the way I deliver ideas. I need to know how to speak besides what to speak. I need them, for my rights, my ideas, my dreams. I know there is no easy solution, but the situation has push me enough that I need a better solution. I want to really stick to a long term plan that promise a future. 

Not only the English language, it is the logic of language that tumbles me, as I do not follow a clear logic to construct an coherent argument. The solution for this would be to read and write essays. The school work seems to be sufficient for now. (Philosophy essay, HRM and Cover Letter) 

The lack of practice on grammar removes the possibility for a confident delivery. I could do the following: Learn by heart 1 valuable article/speech per week. Time slots will be odd date mornings. Procedure will be 

Besides that, present to not-so-familiar friends, or working colleges, or public opinion blogs about idea as formal as possible will also be a good practice. These clients will not entertain you by accepting your idea blindly so that it stirs more in-depth discussion. Meanwhile my grammar and bad speech habits will be exposed. Time slots will be school time and after-dinner relaxation time. 

The paths to the dreams. Jane. Jane. Jane. Gonna start building them. :)

Seeya, America!

When you told the real stories to somebody then you start to miss him. I think I am honest with them, at least I TRY to be honest with them. If you are fond of someone, you go to him and make out with him. What else to do?

I am the passive one in one story and the active one in another. I don’t know how to pursuit further with Mr Jon, for god’s sake, except to pursuit my own career in becoming a happy and brilliant woman.

I don't want to exhaust my life on thinking of some guy, even some GREAT guy,minute and minute, day and night, as if I really don’t have anything more to do. I have to go somewhere RIGHT NOW. I can’t waste my youth, my young hot beautiful days. I really had a crush on him, feeling like he is the one I want-to-be, bright eyes, smart and free. People are different, if you would like to know, we are of different "soul depth". What I really like about Americans are, they are natural humans who understand themselves as who they are. They are less phony that way. They admit the society as it is and live the best with it. They would never say: oh I’m not able enough, I’m not handsome enough. What they would love to say is, I think my eyes are bright! Yours too, I’m proud of you. I think of RJ suddenly, somehow, and he is a mighty lovely man. He is a curious boy who would go fix the door locks and a happy man who is proud and content about what he has. 

Think about it, the becoming of United States are brilliant-- almost a miracle, in my opinion. How does a vast land started from ancient to this industrialized mankind habitant?  This new land, built so rapidly by all the people in the world- the Europeans, the Chinese, the Indians, the Arabians.  It is a dreamland, if I may call it. 

So we go forward. We help each other out and continue to build a better and more exciting world. Don’t look back, you are not who you are, you are who you want to be and you have what you have. Everybody does. Everybody is different and you have reason to be proud of it, the fact that you are one element of the united world. It’s more beautiful that way, it always excites me, and that’s probably the reason we go to parties and meet people, they are very interesting if you think about it.

I have to leave now

我对生活中的一切都是在诀别时才喜爱，而不是与之相逢时；都是在分离时才喜爱，而不是与之相融时.
-茨维塔耶娃·玛琳娜·伊万诺夫娜

FREEDOM FOR THE FEARLESS

From Dollhouse--- American TV series are far more developed than Chinese ones. Koreans...well, they know what they know, they do what they do and, peeps like it!

FREEDOM
I gotta find the freedom
That promised me
Freedom from our struggles and our misery
Freedom is all we need
To heal the pain of history

Each day when the sun shines upon my eyes
It fills me with love makes me feel alive
I'm saving it up for a rainy day
When there's no lights to guide my way


I gotta find the freedom
That promised me
Freedom from our struggles and our misery
Freedom is all we need
To heal the pain of history

Young Fresh and Hot

"I think it’s possible to go after what you want and get it. It just involves a buttload of discipline and tenacity. You also can’t ever second-guess yourself. Imprint it on your brain!
You will become who you want to be. There is no other alternative. The power of positive thinking often feels sooooo “delusional sorority girl” but it’s effective in many ways. It certainly can’t hurt, right? Besides, you’ll need all the help you can get during this freaking decade."

Farewell, Jon! Please let me meet you again.

When you raise a warm feeling in your stomach and secretly excited when noticing his name randomly somewhere, when you don't even go dancing, thinking that you already had so much having him in your thought, you know...

Traveler forever

I will go back to Singapore this time as a traveler.

Be amazed, be inspired

Be a seeker, be a fisher.

I realize 陈奂仁 had concerts in Blu Jaz cafe. I have been in that stylish cafe before but I felt nothing. (maybe with wrong people?)

meh. 

I should have enjoyed myself more in Singapore.

我走进我的心里

--------我知道我约会迟到，那是为了讨好你，把时间都忘掉---------




--------------都是因为，太想靠近你
                                                   只是怕亲手将我的真心葬送----------------

Look at this girl

It's not what you do, it's why you do it.
There are pop singers in millions, but you are who I choose to listen.
Gaga.
I think she's very respectful and she respects people, especially people who work for her, the bands, the fans and her friends. A lovely girl. I truly like her.

(Give yourself prudence. Love your friends!)

I am feeling like my own activist right now! Work it girl!

People come and go and walk away

Not Going Anywhere

I hate songs that seem to be talking about

me.

(It's not too bad. People have sympathies.)

This is why I always wonder, I'm a pond full of regrets

I always try to not remember rather than forget
This is why I always whisper when vagabonds are passing by
I tend to keep myself away from their goodbyes

Tide will rise and fall along the bay
And I'm not going anywhere, I'm not going anywhere
People come and go and walk away
But I'm not going anywhere, I'm not going anywhere

This is why I always whisper, I'm a river with a spell
I like to hear but not to listen, I like to say but not to tell
This is why I always wonder, there's nothing new under the sun
I won't go anywhere so give my love to everyone

Tide will rise and fall along the bay
And I'm not going anywhere, I'm not going anywhere
People come and go and walk away
But I'm not going anywhere, I'm not going anywhere

Happy Birthday Frankie

May 26th- Frankie Manning's birthday. 

He came up with air step, took lindy hop to greater height; He danced with intense engagement with his partner, showed what is called CONNECTION; They say, he is a big big man, with a big big heart. 

It's so good that he would never wanted to end it...

From How Wee and Ming Pang who met Frankie:
Frankie talked about the atmosphere at Savoy – “If you could dance, you danced the moment you walked in. If you couldn’t dance, you’ll find your feet would start tappin’, your fingers would start snappin’, and your head would start boppin’. And before you know it, you were dancing.”


When he was slightly older, like 90, the move I appreciated him most was his shimmy. It wasn’t with the shoulders, not with the hips, not the arms – it seem to come from somewhere within – like Lindy Hop was his life and love and the shimmy was his way of saying it.


MP: The old movies are so grainy, and sometimes the costumes are so comical, but you can always tell Frankie because of his huge smile. In person of course you can not be in the same room with him and not be warmed by his light. Said another way, it seemed as if sarcasm and cynicism dried up around him.


MP: The way he taught, I realize now, was really magic. Everything seemed easy and wonderful. Guys became gentlemen and women became ladies. Maybe I remember it too nostalgically, but that’s how it seemed it me.

我觉得女人希拉里真的很了不起

大家一起来吧，人生短暂，别管头发淋湿这样的小事了。

自嘲是项基本的求生工具，而且比起另一种可选的方法，即爬回碉堡里躲起来，要略胜一筹。

无论你喜不喜欢，女性如果公开表现太多感情，总是会受到批评。

生活没有彩排的机会，你将不得不即兴发挥，演好每一场戏。唯一可以做的准备是你们也已做过的那些事情：受尽可能好的教育，不断从文学、《圣经》和历史中吸收知识，尽力去了解人类的经验。这样你才会有真正明确的路标，引导你朝着正确的抉择前进。


坚持你们的梦想，迎接超越自己、创造新我的挑战，只有超越自我，你才能发掘你自己；关心那些你本不必操心的事情；投身于这是世界，使你说的话变得有价值，有影响力。


生活中一切有意义的事情都是以超脱个人存在为特征的——超出‘自我保护’的局限——面向其他人，面向社会，面向整个世界……只有通过往外看，通过关心那些纯粹为生存而奔波的人，通过将你自己不断地投入到骚动混乱的世界，直到使你的话产生影响为止——你才能成为一个真正的人。

Stop beating like crazy, heart!

If Jane talks to Jane more often, means Jane is going crazy.
If Jane is going crazy, she starts to scratch her heart.
She dances beautifully, but she thinks not, she thinks she's not ENOUGH.
It's BAD. It's bad when you are not ENOUGH.
It's probably because she can't dance WHOLE HEARTED. Because she is really weak and easy to fall.
When she falls, she start to worry. She holds back.
Shit.
Shit.
Shit.
She dances by herself. She stand alone. She run away.
She's not going to tell him that he is special. She's not going to tell him that she has space for him.
She is somewhat, proud. (Ughhhh. she's like a man this way!!)

When will Jane grow up? Jane wants to grow up. Jane wants to love. Guess she will chase after the crazy ridiculous love, for a long time.

1. Last night, I saw a gang of young shinny fresh boys in Rittensquare park. I approached them carefully, afraid that they are in some dangerous mood. When I get closer and closer, I realized they are playing sha bao all together, giggling and talking. They played it the same way when we played it 10 years back(dou kou nian hua?). They looked like they are having great fun. Well, in the moonlight, in the smooth wind, in the tree shadows, in the young blood, things are perfect. I am very much in ecstasy.

2. Then I went in LaB social ethical building, I put myself in man's world, in a romance wonderland. It is as much built by the people as by my own imagination. And thus, you know, I would be hurt for anything. I realized that for love, you can be selfish. For dancing, although there's total devotion of love in that one song, you can't and not allowed to be selfish. It's a pain in the ass for me not to be selfish! I watched the man i was in love with a minute ago danced as if he was in love with another girl. Well, i should be happy that in this warm wooden floor, man and woman love one another, and the whole world is, in this one night, in love.

3. In a dancing perspective, the difference between Singapore and Philly is obvious. Philly peeps are more random. haha.

4. I hear the song again. The Подмосковные Вечера that brings me back to the karaoke nights with parents. Memory has power. I drown myself in the song and I feel like floating in the unknown space that  stores my most valuable belongings. I sat there, very lost, stoning at the couple in a depth of distance dancing a beautiful dance with the song, then I felt the connection. A secret connection between China and the world, me and parents. 

I left after the song, singing the song on the street, with my whole heart. 

All, Or Nothing At All

   《别》　
　　
　　顾城
　　
　　在春天， 　　
　　你把手帕轻挥， 　　
　　是让我远去， 　　
　　还是马上返回？ 　　
　　不，
　　什么也不是， 　　
　　什么也不因为， 　　
　　就象水中的落花， 　　
　　就象花上的露水…… 　　
　　只有影子懂得， 　　
　　只有风能体会， 　　
　　只有叹息惊起的彩蝶， 　　
　　还在心花中纷飞……